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Ed Young Pastor keep things confidential. Do we have any radio free listeners? Do you betray a confidence? Are you able to keep a secret to the grave? If you have messed up on this one, if you have shared that dirty laundry, go back to the person and say, “I want to speak the truth in love. I messed up. I am sorry. Will you forgive me? I am going to be a confidential person from this day forward. You can trust me.”
You see, when we are quick to listen and slow to speak, let me tell you what happens. The person we are communicating with is affirmed. It is an affirming thing to know someone is listening to you. It’s an affirming thing to know someone is slow to speak. They are intentional and discerning by what they say. That is real affirmation.
Ed Young Blog said If I could interview three of your closest friends, would they know how you really felt about them? Are you intentional and discerning about what you say to them? Think about it. You might be saying, “Well, I don’t know if they know how I really feel about them.” Tell them. Tell them how you feel about them. They might be surprised and say, “What? You felt that way about me? I meant that much to you?” There is nothing like affirming others. I can understand why we have a hard time telling people difficult things, but I don’t understand why we cannot affirm others.
Ed Young – You have a legal problem. Who do you talk to? An attorney. A financial problem? You might see your CPA. A medical problem? You are going to go to the doctor. A problem with the old golf swing?
You’re thinking, “Ed Young, what in the world? Trap? I set a trap for myself?” Here’s a common scenario that I deal with often. Someone will come in and say, “Well, I began to be successful, and I slowly began to draw away from my friends who loved me for who I am. I began to isolate my spouse, my children. They became kind of free-agent type people. The business became like a surrogate family to me. When I was at home I wasn’t really at home, if you know what I mean – always on the phone and doing paperwork and things of that nature. Ed Young C3 Conference said I began to believe what people were telling me. Those people who used to tell me the truth I fired; I hired ambitious assistants who were yes-people. No more accountability.” Ed Young Sermons says slowly, these people are bending back the trap. They’re putting the tortilla and peanut butter on it, and out of nowhere, out of nowhere, it will clap and spring shut. Trapped by your own success.
Ed Young Pastor said That Michael Jordan has stated on numerous occasions that he has nightmares about a self-destructive end to his career like I’m describing to you right now. Caught in the trap of success. How do you avoid the trap of success? You avoid it by doing a couple of things. Let me illustrate what I’m talking about. When I was in the fourth grade I played on the church league basketball team. My father was the coach. We played against a team that was really mature.
Ed Young Ministries – I’ll hire the golf pro out at Bear Creek. A problem in your marriage? Oftentimes we don’t say anything to anyone.
Ed Young Blog said That is what the shepherds did. The shepherds did not become poets, priests and politicians. Verse 20. “Then the shepherds went back again to their fields and flocks praising God for the visit of the angels because they had seen the child just as the angel had told them.”
According to Ed Young Pastor Christmas, a time when the natural world and the supernatural world collide. There are two things that we can do on this earth that we can’t do in heaven. One of them is sin. We can’t sin in heaven because everything will be perfect there. There is something else we can’t do in heaven that we can do on earth. Spread the word of Jesus Christ. In heaven we can’t witness. There is no reason to share because everyone there is a believer. Yet on earth, we have the opportunity to communicate Jesus Christ to others through our lifestyle, our words, our attitudes and our actions. Obviously, the Lord does not want us to sin. Obviously, He wants us to share, to imitate the shepherds, to spread the word.
Ed Young Sermons said that I want to give you a challenge, a Christmas challenge, to imitate the shepherds as they responded to this message from the angels. I want you to take out a pen or pencil. Make a list of three people that you know in your life who are outside the family of God. I am talking to Christians right now. If you are a seeker, just sit back and listen. You see, the reason I am talking to Christians about this subject is that it is so important to God. Throughout the Bible God tells us that we matter to Him. Because you matter to God, you matter to us. The reason many of you are here is because others have made lists and then invited you to this church.
Ed Young Blog – I encourage you first if you are in a rut, if you are in a situation that you cannot get out of, if you have gone through nine or ten negotiating type sessions over the same subject, go see a Christian couple preferably older than you are and share the problem with them.
So, again, check out God’s addition. You’ve got vision plus leaders. Let’s add something else, commitment. You can talk about leaders and you can talk about vision—those things are good. Leaders carry out vision. Ed Young Ministries that they are intertwined like peanut butter and jelly or chips and hot sauce. That’s cool. But you’ve also got to talk about commitment, because it takes a commitment by the leaders to the vision. It’s the commitment to reach up, reach out and reach in that really puts wheels beneath what God is doing when he wants to add and do something awesome like he has done, and is doing, and will do at Fellowship Church. Commitment.
I’ll tell you something I’ve never told anybody publicly before. I might have said this, though, at our Creative Church Conference for pastors. But let me go ahead and tell you.
At Fellowship we began to reach up, and out and in and we began to really flesh out the vision. But I was really ignorant as a senior pastor. I didn’t know a couple of things that I just found these things out this past week when we had several pastors from Florida shadow us in a leadership training thing. And one of the pastors, Ron, specializes in training pastors on how to start churches and we were talking about Fellowship Church. And I was telling him what I was going to talk about this weekend and he said, “Ed Young Pastor, I don’t know if you know this or not, but 80% of churches that start up, fail in the first year. They have to close the doors.” Wow!
I told him, “Ron, I didn’t know that 13 years ago. Thanks for telling me.”
Eighty percent! That’s a lot. Think about how a church is started and after twelve months, boom! Eighty percent of the people say, “See ya!”
Ed Young – Make sure this couple will not blab, will not talk, make sure they can keep this between themselves and you and your spouse. Don’t tell your mother-in-law about it, your father-in-law about it.
It is the week of Thanksgiving and you are dreading the trip home because you know the moment that you walk through the front door well-meaning relatives will start a full frontal assault on your marital status. They will ask you questions like, “Are you dating anyone, yet?” “Jenny is engaged. Ed Young Church Did you realize that?” You find yourself shopping for low fat groceries to keep yourself attractive to find that special someone. The Bridal magazines seem to mock you and taunt you as you go through the checkout lines, singing “What’s wrong with you, what’s wrong with you. Life will have no meaning until you say I do.”
A just married couple invite you over for a home-cooked meal. While driving back to your cold condo alone, you say to yourself, “Man, I could get used to that. I need to find someone who will cook for me!” Then, frenzied female friends rush up to you with their ring-finger high, making you feel like a piece of unclaimed luggage on the carousel at DFW airport.
Our society heaps a lot of pressure on those here who are unmarried to walk the carpeted aisle to the pace of the wedding march. Instead of ignoring the pressure, most singles become frantic, frustrated and susceptible to making dumb decisions. Speaking of dumb decisions, last Sunday afternoon I was standing in my front yard with my wife and four children and my mother from out of town. We were talking and I noticed a skateboard at the top of our driveway. So without thinking, I walked over to the skateboard and stepped on it expecting a smooth ride down the slight incline. The skateboard flew out from beneath my feet and I landed on my back and my wrist. Dr Ed Young I was in pain and I was embarrassed. I had to get my wrist X-rayed. I had some strained ligaments. I made a misstep, a faux pas, if you will. Too many single adults see marriage as a blissful glide on the skateboard of life. I can just skateboard into the chapel and skateboard into marriage and skateboard throughout the honeymoon and, then, throughout the next 25 or 50 years. But too many single adults make frantic faux pas and they end up choosing the wrong lifetime partner.
Ed Young Fellowship – Don’t tell your mother about it or your father about it. Deal with the issue. If still that doesn’t work, get professional help. Make sure because Christian counseling is phenomenal, make sure you don’t wait too long to go to Christian counseling.
Snakes are spooky, aren’t they? You never know where they will turn up. Memorial Day, Lisa and I and the children were out doing some yard work. I love yard work. Ed Young Church I was putting some stuff in an outdoor storage closet. Lisa was about ten feet away pulling some weeds. We were having a good time talking, laughing, doing the family thing. All of a sudden, out of the corner of my eye, I saw Lisa appear to be dancing. She began to scream. “Snake, Ed, copperhead, Ed.” She jumped into my arms. I took the rake, walked over, kind of pulled the foliage back and took him out. I was her shepherd at that time. Well, one foot note. From Memorial Day until now, I have been looking down. Last night we pulled up in the driveway after the Saturday night service and I saw something lying there. It turned out to be a little stick. Paranoid.
God does not want us to be paranoid. You have heard, paranoia will destroy ya. Ed Young Fellowship he doesn’t want us to be that. But if we let the Shepherd-Savior look up and look down, we can experience amazing grazing in the presence of our enemies. Do you have some sin in your life that is covered up like those snakes? Are you telling yourself that you can never been bitten? Take care of it. One more time, allow The Good Shepherd To Pour His Oil, to anoint you with His repellant so you can live and breath and shadow Him.
I have got to ask you a question. How many of you would take your children to the Ft. Worth Zoo and dump them off in the lion’s exhibit and tell them: “Practice your soccer kicks and drive your Barbie Ferrari right there in the lion’s exhibit. Everything will be OK.
Ed Young – In most marital situations I deal with, the couple has waited too long. They should have gone when they were having problems early on.
You know, I love to fish. Ed Young the Bible says and Christ commanded us to become fishers of men and women. Now when I fish, one of the things that I do is sharpen my hooks. Over the last several years, I have gotten into tying flies. If you are really good at tying flies, you can disguise the hooks really well. You can make that lure look so good. Well, take that mentality to the church. Everything we do has a hook in it. We don’t try to camouflage it, but the hook is there. What is the hook? The hook is the gospel. It is the death, burial, and resurrection of Christ.
For example, right now we have 38 adult basketball teams within our church. Thirty-eight! We own no gyms, no athletic fields. Period. Thirty-eight basketball teams. Ed Young Blog we don’t have basketball teams to see how many points the guys can score or the girls can score. We don’t have basketball teams to see how many teams we can have or to find out how many Christians can do a reverse dunk. Why do we do it? We do it to get to know each other better, but we also do it with a hook in it. It is to invite others into our church. About one half of the members of our basketball teams are not members of our church. And that is what I am talking about. So whenever we get to the point that we do stuff just to do stuff, to become spiritual navel-gazers, to stay in our little stained glass fortress, we might as well just get zapped to heaven. We need to have community with believers, but we also need to open up and reach others who are outside the family of God.
We have something in our Women’s Ministry, for example. We don’t just have it to have it. There is always a hook in it. So everything we do has outreach in mind. I take my hat off to you and thank you from the bottom of my heart for what you are doing in this area.
Fellowship Church Grapevine – Go to someone, though, who has the Bible as their authority. If they don’t, you are just hearing some more pop psychological, mumbo, jumbo. If, though, they have the Bible as their authority then they know what this reconciliation factor is and they can give you great, great help and assistance.
Realize your problem. That’s the first part of the process.
The second part of the process is “criticize.” Criticize yourself. Sometimes I just criticize Ed. I just rip Ed apart. Not in a mean way, but I just criticize myself. Ed Young Church it’s good to do that. Also, open yourselves up to constructive criticism. When I say constructive criticism, I’m not saying that gives all of us carte blanche opportunities just to criticize anyone we see. I’ve got to earn the right to constructively criticize you. I’ve got to know you and you’ve got to know that I have your best interest in mind. The same is true as you look at my life. We have to open ourselves up to this constructive criticism if we are going to achieve that sweet spot; that greatness that God wants. Can you believe that Moses’ father-in-law was constructively criticizing him?
Check out what Exodus 18:17-19 says. Moses father-in-law replied, “What you are doing is not good. You and these people who come to you are just wearing yourself out. The work is too heavy for you. You can’t handle it alone. Listen now to me and I will give you some advice and may God be with you.”
Last time I checked, the stats on death are pretty overwhelming; 1 out of 1 die. It’s going to happen. We all have an appointment with death that we can’t put off. Ed Young Ministries we are one blood clot, one germ, or one drunk driver away from meeting our Maker. The Bible says that we will spend eternity in one of two places. When we meet God after death, though, God is going to do a time audit of your life and mine. He will. We will have to give an account of how we stewarded this time stuff. Will we say, “God, I did a good job. I traded in goodness for greatness.” Orwill we say, “God, those minute muggers and those priority prowlers were all over me. I knew my priorities, but I got so involved in the superfluous stuff, that I didn’t really do what you wanted me to do.” That’s something to think about. It’s kind of scary, isn’t it? We’ve got to criticize ourselves and open ourselves up to constructive criticism.
Ed Young Jr – We can build and benefit our spouse in another way and it will get quiet when I talk about this. But I gave you a warning. Remember, husbands and wives the 216 principle. Remember the 216 principle.
Male Voice: Henry is very approachable. A lot of times when we are training, someone will just pass by Henry and Henry will make a notion, “How are you doing today?” I’ve seen him speaking with people all the time. I think that there is just something about Henry. Ed Young states that he just touches people and people know there is something different about Henry.
Male Voice: Well, I came to the gym about two and a half years ago. Came down here working with my dad. Almost ten months ago to the day, he passed away and I got complete ownership of the gym. My brother didn’t want really anything to do with it because he lives in North Dakota. Little hard at times, but at the time God wanted me to keep involved right here. And this is where he wanted me to minister to people. Ed Young Blog in August, my aunt passed away, my dad’s sister. So that was another shock to my system, two very close family members passed away. Got really involved during the Ulti-mate Series. Henry got me to come to Fellowship for the first time, and I mean I fell in love with it. Since I have been going there, I got in with the greeting ministry, the Children’s Adventure ministry on Saturday nights, involved with The Blend, involved with two different Home Teams and it’s just done wonders for me. God has given me so many obstacles and challenges in my life in the last year, last ten months, and because of the friends I have made at Fellowship, it has just helped me get through it all.
Male Voice: I met Henry in Miami back in ’81. We were part-timers with Delta Airlines. When I went through my divorce four years ago, I got involved with the church and then he said, “I want you to try something new.” I did try it. I walked in and I sat down and the first thing I heard was drumsticks clacking together and the music just exploded, you know, and the way you do your sermons and I was sold. I love this church, and I really don’t want to go anywhere else.
Male Voice: Well, I met Henry about two years ago when I moved here from Puerto Rico with American Airlines. One of the things that most impressed me was that he was such a diligent trainer. Fellowship Church Ed Young had an eye for good trainers and what impressed me most was his diligence, his caring for the clients he was working with. Henry was instrumental in bringing me back to the Lord. I guess the biggest testimony that anyone can give is that Henry did it just with his actions. He is such a good Christian and it shows in his work ethic and in him as a person. That had a great impression on me.
Male Voice: Well, I was looking for a church to go to and I came to Fellowship Church with my daughter. After hearing you that day, I became a member of Fellowship Church. We went to the Newcomers Class, both my daughter and I, and we were baptized the same day. My commitment to the Lord was a direct result of my experiences with Henry. I think the love of the Lord works through them and it just shows in everything that they do and the way that they treat people, the way they communicate. They have a gift for communicating and I think that is not just their personality but it’s the Lord working through them.
Ed Young Jr – Lisa and I have four children and we love them dearly. We would give our lives for our children; they are gifts from God.
At first we laugh it off. We say to ourselves, what a reach. Compare me to anything by that. But after closer inspection, we begin to tilt our heads a little bit and smile and comment that there are a lot of similarities. I just described to you the reaction most of us have the moment we are compared to a sheep. Pastor Ed Young man didn’t make the comparison. Man would have chosen to compare himself to something strong like a lion, a tiger or a bear. But God has made this comparison. Our creative, loving and transcendent God parallels men and women with sheep. When you look at a sheep, it is kind of scary because we are a lot alike.
Sit tight for just a second and I will be right back. I will show you what I am talking about.
PASTOR EXITS DOWN STEPS FROM PLATFORM AND RETURNS
CARRYING A LIVE SHEEP
Oh, wait, he is going wild. Now this is an honest to goodness real live sheep. Curtis, can you get a close-up with your camera? We kind of look alike, don’t we? You have heard of Dolly and all the reports about cloning and all that. Well, this is Dolly. No, really this is David. Now this sheep has shed a little bit on me. Ed Young Blog We will talk about wool in a little while.
Anyway, I am doing a series of messages on the Twenty-third Psalm and the Twenty-third Psalm was written from the perspective of the sheep right here. I wanted to bring one out so that we could really understand the comparison. I think this is enough for David. It sounds like this little guy wants to preach himself. Let’s take him off stage now and give him a round of applause.
The Twenty-third Psalm was written from the viewpoint of a sheep. What I want to do with this message is take the Twenty-third Psalm and the image of the sheep and compare them with your life and mine.
Ed Young Church – Recently, though, I was doing some math and I discovered that we are only going to have each child about 216 months from birth until 18 years.